New Jersey Divorce Lawyer Blog
For many people, the holidays are a time of family gatherings and happy memories. However, for recently divorced couples with children, the holidays present a myriad of issues. Who will have the kids on Christmas morning? How will visits with extended family members be managed? Who decides what to buy and how much to spend on Christmas gifts? Can the ex-spouses manage to be in the same room together? Even after a divorce in NJ, the holidays can be a joyful time if the divorced parents intentionally keep it that way. If the problems get out of hand with your former spouse, you need to speak to an experienced NJ child custody lawyer.
Preparation is key. Conversations about visitation schedules, gifts, and special events should be had weeks, if not months ahead of time. Talking to your ex might still be painful. Keep conversations focused on the task at hand. Resist the urge to take jabs at one another or to bring up old wounds. Try to remember that you both love your children and that moving forward in a healthy co-parenting dynamic will benefit them immensely.
Provide opportunities for your children to spend time with both sides of the family. This may mean that your holidays are more hectic than they used to be. If so, talk with extended family members about your concerns. Do your best to allow opportunities for family celebration, but don’t sacrifice all your time with your children on the altar of extended family relationships. Continue Reading →
